Couples counseling

I do not serve as a judge or jury in the counseling. It is not my job to weigh in on which member of the couple is right or wrong. The client in couples counseling is the interaction between the two of you.

Couples seek counseling at various stages of their relationships. Sometimes couples come because they want to improve communication, clear up a misunderstanding, or talk about a sensitive issue with a professional present.  Other couples worry that they are headed toward a sexless marriage and wish to discover what is keeping them from feeling as intimate as they used to be. 

Partners in newer relationships often seek counseling to resolve conflicts or strengthen their connection before making a serious commitment to each other. Others start counseling at a time when there has been a serious rupture of trust.

Many decide to try counseling because they are tired of  feeling insecure or unhappy in the relationship. At times, couples need guidance as they consider whether to split up. 

Typical problems that couples bring to counseling include: disagreements about money, employment, division of labor in the home, parenting, affairs, dealing with in-laws, frequency of sex, displays of affection, housekeeping, religion, communication style, and more.

Each problem, large or small, is important to discuss and is usually a symptom of some deeper issue of significance to the couple.  

I do not serve as a judge or jury in the counseling. It is not my job to weigh in on which member of the couple is right or wrong. The client in couples counseling is the interaction between the two of you.

When the goal is for the couple to stay together, we work on how the interaction can be improved to restore trust, security, and closeness. If the goal is to separate, we work on smoothing the path so that it is not full of conflict.

I welcome all couples: straight, gay, and lesbian. Although all couples may deal with similar day to day struggles, I am sensitive to the extra challenges that gay and lesbian couples face.